A TOAST TO 'THEM' LADIES

I remember back when I was younger, I wanted to be like my mum, long hair, pretty,fashion designer, slim, talkative, have four kids, marry a Dark Kenyan man.When I grew up a little I changed my mind, I wanted to be like my elder sister, 'a bookworm', hardworking, organized, introvert, grab all Chancellors Awards and any other academic awards that existed. When I grew up I wanted to be myself more than anything else in this world; confident, leader, intelligent, courageous, independent, sociable, open-minded, caring,poet,writer and humble.

Growing up as a girl child is one of the toughest things in the world. If she escapes early marriage, FGM awaits her; If she is lucky enough to escape FGM she fears being raped or  used. If she is lucky enough she still has discrimination and gender inequality to overcome. If she has a lucky charm she still got to fight for her education. And if she is the luckiest in the world she still has heartbreaks to get over. And if she falls in love with the one in a million man she still has to bear so much pain during delivery.

This valentines I toast to all the Ladies who are strong enough to pull through all these challenges.  A big shout out to all the Independent ladies who view rich future husbands as a bonus too them. I  also  salute single ladies out there. “Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.” Sometimes being in a relationship can make you lazy about developing yourself. You can get so comfortable that your goals take a back seat especially when dating the 'sonkos'.

On valentines day we all have a wish of spending it with that special person. Don't feel alone girl, spend the day with family, good friends or show some love to the orphans or children with disability.  For me its  me and the kids plus my girls. Have a great day!  Go out and buy yourself something! Don't be a tick waiting to be fed  each day. Spoil yourself ; not too much though.This Valentine's Day just be yourself. Someone will find your uniqueness attractive.

Be that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst, be that fearless girl, the one who would dare to do anything, be that independent girl who didn't need to rely on anyone but herself to make it, be that girl who never backed down. When you get your prince charming remember that is not a job opportunity so appreciate the little you get.

Happy Valentines :-*

Cheers!!

FASHION BEAT

My twenty years already feel like eighty years a lot has changed in such a short time.Each mile is like a million miles. I am very observant, but more observant when it comes  to  food, fashion and relationships. But don’t misquote me dear I don’t love eating as a hobby, neither do I love fashion as a talent. However I love relationship as a status.

When I started my journey my mama din't cook me some of the foods I have met along the way. She loved cooking us  ‘mchicha’  ‘managu’ ‘mkunde’ ‘maharage’ ‘pure’ and  ‘kichwa cha samaki’ where my brains came from. I would eat ‘chapati’ once in a blue moon and all my neighbor kids would know due to my floss in our estate.                       

             

Now everything has changed 'chapati' and 'biriani' are just like 'ugali' and 'pure'. I don't know whether it's a good or a bad thing but I know it's a new thing. Gone are the days I would crave for sphaghetti too everything has become so strange. But I somehow like the change but woe unto those who love the change...they are more unhealthy..

             

Talking too much of food will make me hungry and am still too far from my next stopping point. I said fashion too changed.  But that requires more energy to explain how and why and when and where. I will sit down and clarify that too when I stop to take a snack. 

Don't forget that relationships have changed too in the course of my journey. Also remember am too hungry to explain that too..Blame the change of food because 'ugali' would sustain me for long but these new 'pizza' and 'chicken' are not worth my entire story that I had in store.

Relaxing time over. Now I need to go on.. I hope to talk to you as soon as I stop. For now ciao..:-*

DISABILITY IS NOT INABILITY

My journey is full of surprises. Sometimes I am forced to think that my journey is the most special of all..am not bragging.I have met someone who touched the softest part of my heart...I would like to touch others hearts too...

Ouch! That is how we all go after having knelt down for just a few minutes. However to Mary kneeling is the only sure way of moving from one place to another. You may be wondering, “Why should anyone kneel to get to somewhere while they can just walk or run to their desired destination?’’

Meet twelve year old Mary Kadii Charo, a class six pupil at St. Jude Educational Centre. Mary a young girl from Samburu who through God’s plan was born physically challenged. This forces her to kneel her way through the day as much as it may be extremely tiring. What choice does she have?

At home, Mary has to get assistance from her younger sister in class five learning in Ndo ivo Primary School. Her sister does her laundry and fetches water on her behalf. Mary loves singing as a hobby. She sings better than most of us.. Her journey in life has been faced with plenty of challenges. For instance she always admires participating in athletics and playing football (where she is a big fan of Arsenal.) whoa  I guess for world cup she would go for TEAM GERMANY just like me..

Just like how every child has big dreams of, “When I grow up I would like to become a…” Mary aspires to become a pilot and possibly own a plane of her own. When asked about her inspiration, the courageous young girl did not hesitate to say, “I got inspired to become a pilot when on one occasion I dreamt that I was flying a plane. This made me think deeply of the fact that I ought to work hard to make it a reality someday.” She further says, “However, my journey towards becoming a well-known, respected and successful pilot is not easy at all. Back in the days when I schooled in Samburu, my fellow pupils would laugh at me and shout to my face that I can never have a good future because no one will ever risk employing me. This always put me down including ‘killing’ my self-esteem because it made me feel like I am not fit to be in the society.” She said all these as she forced tears back into her eyes. The strength of a woman!

Later in her schooling she moved to St. Jude Educational Centre and life here too is not any easier. “After class I may ask one of my classmates for some help in the areas where I had not grasped well from the teacher. In most cases the pupils do not hesitate to reject me hence I am forced to find my way out of the situation,” Mary says. “However, I thank God for my best friend, Nadzua Hassan who accords me help and rescues in such situations. She offers to assist me not only in my academics but also when it comes to other areas. For instance, she fetches my bathing water and carries it to the bathing area,” Mary further adds.

After meeting Nadzua, she says “Mary is one very strong and future oriented girl that I know of because despite all the hurdles in her life she is always wearing a smile on her face. The other pupils never see the need of helping her in any way but I just try to help her where I can because I also believe that she is very special,”

My journey after I met this young girl has never been the same...I am amazed by God’s creation and  her hardwork and determination is reason enough to now believe ‘DISABILITY IS NOT INABILITY’

 

FAYDAILIES

MY DREAMS ARE VALID

It's been long since i last checked how long my journey has been. I cant even tell how many miles i have walked...I guess more than a thousand because i have passed many checkpoints in my journey. I have met so many people on my way..let me not forget to say that i met Lupita Nyong'o  and she said that my dreams were valid no matter where i had come from. She had a point because i cant compare where i am now and where i came from.

                                 LUPITA NYONG'O

 I also met my prince charming, he is mmmh i cant use English words to describe maybe french will do me good.."Il est très beau et affectueux. En fait, il est celui à 1 million." If i say he is the best that might be an understatement because he is more than that. Now I believe in love at first sight. I find myself loving you with every myogenic muscle of my heart. Ooops that sounded alittle more of  falling in love. Indeed i am flooded with  emotions.  This has forced me to write a letter to my daddy despite the fact that i hate letters. "Dear Daddy, I have finally found my prince charming but you will always be my king."       


Enough about the people i met..let me now state my encounters. Ever heard of lifetime experience?? I acted in my journey as a dead young girl. It was really fun being a spirit and living in the spirit world. I had been raped and died after trying an abortion. I got to see my fellow spirits and atleast unlike you I know how it feels to be dead. It feels bad and good at the same time. But i was just like the living except that I didnt eat and there was no make up and games. It sucked at some point. The time was so limited only an hour so i didnt get a chance to look for my mother may she rest in peace.

I have also given birth to five kids in the course of my journey. I am now nineteen with five kids. They say i am the best mother in the whole world. Am I?? Maybe yes I do love kids and mentoring so maybe thats why am a good mother. Hey dont ask how I got the kids even Mary was a virgin but she still gave birth to Jesus. My journey is very interesting i have found my twin sister. That sounds weird I know. I also felt weird the first time we realised we are twins.    

I hate giving all stories on one day so let me preserve the rest as I go on with my journey. Actually I was on a break. I love making grammar mistakes because they make my story interesting and irritates those who love English. See you next time i have much more to share.

THE NEW LIFE AGAIN

Life is just another puzzle that keeps me puzzled each day...at 18 I joined the university..freshman..or is it freshwoman? This was just  a totally new life for me because i had only heard of stories about life in campus.My curiosity was finally killed.My life as a fresher in the university was one that to be let in and I will never forget.Meeting different people all over Kenya and having no one with a familiar face.Well my first day in campus I went with not even a single shilling because I did not have the fee but I had faith..I talked to the Director of Academic programs ....I wonder where the courage came from..I was however able to pay by the third day..miracles do happen because for me it did...This is where my real life began the rest were just a preparation

                                       

THE WORLD

What has a beginning always has an end too. High school was over and new the world was desperately waiting eagerly for my arrival.Well i got a job after three days of teaching which was a blessing though young i could give the best to those high school students.Life is actually like a race you either compete or you die.The world is just fair and i disapprove those who say its unfair because it will give you exactly according to your effort.
My life was good though the fear of hoe i would have performed never stopped haunting me till February 2012 when finally the long awaited results came.

THE EXAM

Exams have never been easier but hardwork makes one see them much simpler..well 2011 exams came and well passing was not an option it was a must since i had to join a public university..Mathematics was the simplest i was so sure of an A..Thank God i was born a mathematician...