Friday, 13 February 2015


I remember back when I was younger, I wanted to be like my mum, long hair, pretty,fashion designer, slim, talkative, have four kids, marry a Dark Kenyan man.When I grew up a little I changed my mind, I wanted to be like my elder sister, 'a bookworm', hardworking, organized, introvert, grab all Chancellors Awards and any other academic awards that existed. When I grew up I wanted to be myself more than anything else in this world; confident, leader, intelligent, courageous, independent, sociable, open-minded, caring,poet,writer and humble.

Growing up as a girl child is one of the toughest things in the world. If she escapes early marriage, FGM awaits her; If she is lucky enough to escape FGM she fears being raped or  used. If she is lucky enough she still has discrimination and gender inequality to overcome. If she has a lucky charm she still got to fight for her education. And if she is the luckiest in the world she still has heartbreaks to get over. And if she falls in love with the one in a million man she still has to bear so much pain during delivery.

This valentines I toast to all the Ladies who are strong enough to pull through all these challenges.  A big shout out to all the Independent ladies who view rich future husbands as a bonus too them. I  also  salute single ladies out there. Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.Sometimes being in a relationship can make you lazy about developing yourself. You can get so comfortable that your goals take a back seat especially when dating the 'sonkos'.

On valentines day we all have a wish of spending it with that special person. Don't feel alone girl, spend the day with family, good friends or show some love to the orphans or children with disability.  For me its  me and the kids plus my girls. Have a great day!  Go out and buy yourself something! Don't be a tick waiting to be fed  each day. Spoil yourself ; not too much though.This Valentine's Day just be yourself. Someone will find your uniqueness attractive.

Be that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst, be that fearless girl, the one who would dare to do anything, be that independent girl who didn't need to rely on anyone but herself to make it, be that girl who never backed down. When you get your prince charming remember that is not a job opportunity so appreciate the little you get.

Happy Valentines :-*